While these sorts of guys would always tend to be great to look at, they somehow always left me feeling empty. Empty of a real connection. Empty of something more. Empty of a feeling of wanting to wake up on a Sunday morning and make breakfast with, and we all know it's the person you miss on a Sunday morning, and not the person you miss on a Saturday night for a good time, that matters. These types of men are what flooded my single, dating life here in New York City, until I found Happn.
I joined Happn a little over a year ago after hearing about it from a friend. I was single, living in Manhattan, and was new to the dating app game. It connects you with people you've actually crossed paths with, and not just those within your social circles, or with similar interests. It's real people, right now. The concept of being connected to people that were either already in my radius, or were at some point, was very intriguing to me. I was able to see exactly when and where I passed each person, and how many times we crossed paths. Some were one-time wonders, as I like to say, and others I had seen popup on my timeline as high as 8 times. One of the guys? My now-boyfriend, Xavier.
Xavier and I were living in the same apartment building at the time, and both of us were active users on Happn. Because of our close proximity, Happn kept throwing us up on each others feed, until ultimately we both hit that magical "like" button. After a few days of chatting on Happn, we decided to meet for drinks. We spent hours getting to know each other, and even had a friendly disagreement about how many treadmills were in our buildings gym, in which we may or may not have stumbled up to later on that night to find out. Don't tell our landlord.
I learned that Xavier was working in social media, something I clearly know a thing or two about. In fact, I distinctly remember one of our first conversations being about Snapchat, and he explained the (then) new discovery page to me. He had me try my first moscow mule, and I most certainly won the big treadmill debate. If you asked us what the "defining moment" in our evening was, he might tell you it was in our first kiss later that night, or even maybe at our first hello. I think it was within the different connection that I felt with him. The ease in our conversation. The non-awkward moments between two self-declared awkward people. I felt something I had never felt, and it was definitely something I wanted to explore more with him. Our first date led to a second date, which led to a third, and almost a year later, here we are.
Maybe the universe would have eventually brought us together in another way, but I believe Happn was the gateway to allow that to happen (no pun intended but sort of pun intended). This app has brought one of the most important people in my life to me, and that right there is enough for me to be able to stand up and honestly say that you have to try it. When we die we usually don't regret the things we've done, but the things we didn't do. Your mate could be right under your fingertips (literally) without you even knowing it.
Happn is available on iPhone, Android, and Windows Phone, and free to download.